Race and BDSM

Race and BDSM

Navigating alternative cultures like BDSM/kink in a society that still has a number of puritanical views is difficult enough. For many, opposition to what brings them joy only needs dealing with only a few or fewer points. People of Color, however, are usually...
Feelings On Seduction

Feelings On Seduction

Hay. Sometimes I share my thoughts on a subject instead of teaching you a thing. Today’s subject is seduction. Dear follower trying to seduce their boyfriend into bdsm by doing sexy stuff, To seduce, in its simplest definition, is to attract powerfully. Our...
Intersecting Dominance and Trauma

Intersecting Dominance and Trauma

Hay.  Holding the trauma I’ve endured under scrutiny has been integral to personal growth and continuous improvement. Whether in BDSM or real life, the examination of my traumas offers insight that explains why I’m prone to certain behaviors and actions. That is, the...
The Color System

The Color System

Hay.  I’m sure that many if not most of you are familiar with the concept of a “safe word”. For those of you who aren’t, “safe words” are words and phrases traditionally used to immediately stop a scene. There are numerous ways to augment what its use entails. Some...