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Non-Monogamy and BDSM
Whether its pick-up play, occasional playmates, a light dynamic or TPE (total power exchange), BDSM requires everyone’s’ voice be heard.
Play Party Etiquette
DO take the tour if the space is offering one. It’s the easiest way to locate bathrooms, aftercare/quiet spaces and get a general lay of the land.
BDSM and The State of Whole
We often make ourselves and others less than the total sum of parts that comprise a human being. In this case, “parts” refers to every ingredient that makes up who we are as a person. This includes thoughts, feelings, emotions, behaviors, ideas, reasoning, mental...
Running Inventory
Hay. A healthy BDSM dynamic is the result of sincere, ethical cooperation between involved parties. Think of it as a sort of business. Businesses are similar to machines in that every internal part is necessary for operating desirably or at full capacity. More so, the...
Race and BDSM
Navigating alternative cultures like BDSM/kink in a society that still has a number of puritanical views is difficult enough. For many, opposition to what brings them joy only needs dealing with only a few or fewer points. People of Color, however, are usually...
RA (Relationship Anarchy)
It’s been really nice to see non-monogamy gain traction these last few years. I’ve enjoyed seeing depicted across many mediums in different capacities. I wish all those experiences were positive, inclusionary and didn’t focus on sex, but those are discussions for...
Non-Verbal Communication
Dom/mes have a responsibility to develop their abilities ineffective communication and comprehension of verbal speech. They also must possess the foresight to establish a non-verbal protocol with their subs/bottoms/clients. This, of course, goes both ways as...
Herpes and Self-Worth
Hay. Herpes and the stigma associated with it is not one easily circumvented. This stigma, continuously exacerbated by media, ignorance and misinformation, does more harm than good. It’s a stigma teaching the uninitiated that people with herpes are dirty, reckless and...
Feelings On Seduction
Hay. Sometimes I share my thoughts on a subject instead of teaching you a thing. Today’s subject is seduction. Dear follower trying to seduce their boyfriend into bdsm by doing sexy stuff, To seduce, in its simplest definition, is to attract powerfully. Our...
Drugs and BDSM
(THIS POST APPLIES TO MORE THAN JUST WEED) I personally enjoy drugs. Seriously. 😅 Many people do and some of those folks happen to be kinksters. Furthermore, some kinksters will use drugs in congress with their love of BDSM for numerous reasons. I get it. Maybe you...
Intersecting Dominance and Trauma
Hay. Holding the trauma I’ve endured under scrutiny has been integral to personal growth and continuous improvement. Whether in BDSM or real life, the examination of my traumas offers insight that explains why I’m prone to certain behaviors and actions. That is, the...
