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You Are Kinky Enough

You Are Kinky Enough

Hay. A community is a group of individuals who share common values, goals, interests, identities and/or attitudes. Feeling as though we’re part of a community gives the sense that we are part of something much larger than ourselves. For some individuals, it gives them...

Thoughts on Suffering

Thoughts on Suffering

I would first come to understand the concept of suffering as a child. Back then, to suffer was often the result of actions taken by the adults throughout my young existence. My mother was one of those adults. Sometimes, I would gather enough courage to tell her of my...

The White World of Sexuality

The White World of Sexuality

Sexuality Injustice, discrimination, prejudice and racism are issues that permeate the entirety of the Black existence. The healthcare system, housing, academia and law enforcement are just peaks at the innumerable societal constructs that meet Black People with...

The Intersection of Dominance and Trauma

The Intersection of Dominance and Trauma

Hay. This is a discussion around the literal definition of trauma as pertains to me. Bear with me. Dominance, for me, is a kind of sincere performance. It isn’t entirely who I am as an existence, nor do I identify as dominant, but my ability to call upon it does...

Running Inventory

Running Inventory

Hay. A healthy BDSM dynamic is the result of sincere, ethical cooperation between involved parties. Think of it as a sort of business. Businesses are similar to machines in that every internal part is necessary for operating desirably or at full capacity. More so, the...

Race and BDSM

Race and BDSM

Navigating alternative cultures like BDSM/kink in a society that still has a number of puritanical views is difficult enough. For many, opposition to what brings them joy only needs dealing with only a few or fewer points. People of Color, however, are usually...

RA (Relationship Anarchy)

RA (Relationship Anarchy)

It’s been really nice to see non-monogamy gain traction these last few years. I’ve enjoyed seeing depicted across many mediums in different capacities. I wish all those experiences were positive, inclusionary and didn’t focus on sex, but those are discussions for...

Non-Verbal Communication

Non-Verbal Communication

Dom/mes have a responsibility to develop their abilities ineffective communication and comprehension of verbal speech. They also must possess the foresight to establish a non-verbal protocol with their subs/bottoms/clients. This, of course, goes both ways as...

Herpes and Self-Worth

Herpes and Self-Worth

Hay. Herpes and the stigma associated with it is not one easily circumvented. This stigma, continuously exacerbated by media, ignorance and misinformation, does more harm than good. It’s a stigma teaching the uninitiated that people with herpes are dirty, reckless and...

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