Homeostasis, -space and Drop
As a willing, enthusiastic and consenting visitor to BDSM events and a participant in the countless ways to practice kink, your brain, bodily chemicals and hormones will be altered to some degree. Some, but not all of those chemicals/hormones include: endorphins,...
Non-Monogamy and BDSM
Whether its pick-up play, occasional playmates, a light dynamic or TPE (total power exchange), BDSM requires everyone’s’ voice be heard.
BDSM and the Frenzied Kinkster
“Frenzy threatens personal safety as keeping everyone’s best interests at heart is walled off by a combination of excitement, infatuation, novelty and a cocktail of altered bodily hormones.”
Play Party Etiquette
DO take the tour if the space is offering one. It’s the easiest way to locate bathrooms, aftercare/quiet spaces and get a general lay of the land.
BDSM and The State of Whole
We often make ourselves and others less than the total sum of parts that comprise a human being. In this case, “parts” refers to every ingredient that makes up who we are as a person. This includes thoughts, feelings, emotions, behaviors, ideas, reasoning, mental...
BDSM, Mental Health, Risk and Self Awareness
While BDSM can be full of healing and affirming experiences, unfamiliarity with ones own mental health carries the chance of causing mental discomfort no matter what position is taken.
BDSM and Clout
It is known that power corrupts those who wield it, but it is important to internalize that the very same power may corrupt those who come into contact with it.
You Are Kinky Enough
Hay. A community is a group of individuals who share common values, goals, interests, identities and/or attitudes. Feeling as though we’re part of a community gives the sense that we are part of something much larger than ourselves. For some individuals, it gives them...
Thoughts on Suffering
I would first come to understand the concept of suffering as a child. Back then, to suffer was often the result of actions taken by the adults throughout my young existence. My mother was one of those adults. Sometimes, I would gather enough courage to tell her of my...
The White World of Sexuality
Sexuality Injustice, discrimination, prejudice and racism are issues that permeate the entirety of the Black existence. The healthcare system, housing, academia and law enforcement are just peaks at the innumerable societal constructs that meet Black People with...
The Intersection of Dominance and Trauma
Hay. This is a discussion around the literal definition of trauma as pertains to me. Bear with me. Dominance, for me, is a kind of sincere performance. It isn’t entirely who I am as an existence, nor do I identify as dominant, but my ability to call upon it does...